How to find self motivation || 8 ways to refresh yourself

Losing self-motivation is very easy to do when you are overwhelmed with lists of things to get done or do. I have lost self-motivation several times in the last year and I have come up with many different ways of how I refreshed and rebooted myself every time. I am going to share 8 of these ways with you all to help and try to refresh your self-motivation with whatever it is you are currently struggling with.

#8 Remind yourself that the past is the past

Whenever I start to feel sluggish with finding motivation to do things that I need to do, it usually has something to do with what is on my mind. This can be because of a past relationship where something bad has happened or even from failing at something that you wanted to succeed in. The past can play a major role in your mindset causing anxiety and depression leading to losing all self-motivation, only if you let it.  This is when you need to sit down and remind yourself that the past does not define who you are and what you are worth. As soon as I start feeling a little bit of anxiety from thinking about the past, I instantly stop and remind myself that, that was the past and is not now.

#7 Ask yourself the question of ‘Why?’

Why do you let yourself believe that you are not good enough? Why do you always go back and compare everything to the past? Why can’t you just get up and do the things you need to do? These are all the questions I have been asked and couldn’t answer. Answering these questions is not the hard part but living in these questions are. Every single one of the questions I listed above I had constantly going through my mind when I had no self-motivation, and it’s like you are stuck on a terrible carousel ride and you can’t get off. Finding a way to answer these questions is the only way to move on from them, and to do this you need to be honest to yourself and let your feelings out. Accepting your ‘Why’ is one of the first steps in finding self-motivation again because it frees your mindset and gives you the opportunity to start over.

#6 Treat Yourself

Amazon is truly a girl’s best friend… Sometimes something new is good for the soul and heart. With the pandemic we have going on right now I don’t suggest going to the mall and splurging all your money from the last two weeks, but maybe ordering something small off amazon can make you smile. One time I ordered a matching bandana and scrunchie for my pup and I, and it made my whole week and made me smile and forget everything that went wrong that week. Treating yourself doesn’t have to cost money either, you could eat your favorite ice cream that you have in the freezer that you worked so hard for, or maybe binge watch your favorite Netflix show for a day. It could literally be anything just as long as you enjoy it.

#5 Take a self-care day/morning/evening

This by far is my favorite tip I have for you guys in finding your self motivation again. There is nothing better or more relaxing than spending the evening by yourself in a candle lit bathroom with a steaming hot bath running and a glass of wine in your hand. Taking time for self-care is so important and I can’t stress it enough because this is where you do all the reflecting of yourself for that day or even week. Take a self-care day once a week at least just to reflect on your progress and to kind of let all your thoughts and expressions out, to be able to reset your mind.

#4 Find your Faith again

This tip is the base of self-motivation that I have for you guys. If you don’t have some sort of Faith or Religion in your life, then you are putting everything that you have in your mind on yourself all the time. When I feel overwhelmed, I am able to sit down and talk to God and tell him how I feel and what is going on and what I am lost about in life. I am able to ask Him for guidance and strength to get through the tough times, and I am also able to thank him for the good days. This to me is the base of how I found my self-motivation again and how I am able to rely on His presence to help me push through the hard times.

#3 Start a new hobby

Starting a new hobby for example like painting, drawing, or even journaling can be a refresher from life. Being able to sit down for an hour and just solely focus on your hobby can make you feel productive and energetic. I personally journal all the time and I journal anything from my thoughts, prayers, and even To-Do lists for the following days. I started this new hobby at the beginning of the year, and it has made my mind at ease because I am not constantly trying to remember what I have to get done for the day or what I have left to do for the week. It also motivates me because I can see what I have to do and being able to cross it off my list, kickstarts my self-motivation to finish it.

#2 Change a routine/start a new one

With this tip I am focusing completely on a workout routine. I am not saying you have to go balls to the walls in cardio but just a 45-minute slow walk can make a mindset difference. I am a runner and anytime I am stressed, or my mind is stuck in a rut, I go for a run. If you already have some sort of a workout routine in your life, try adding a new routine of some sort to freshen up your daily life. For example, a new morning/night skincare routine, your diet, drinking water, cutting out social media for an hour of the day, you could literally do anything as long as it makes you feel refreshed and different.

#1 Make Goals

I saved the best for last because to me this is what as completely changed my life. Making a list of Goals for yourself and putting it in a place where you will see it every day is key. I have a list of Goals for myself for a year and then for 5 years, and whenever I hit a goal, I celebrate it. Any goal hitting or even small goal hitting needs to be celebrated because it’s an accomplishment that you worked hard for. Nothing makes me more self-motivated then looking at my goal list and telling myself that, that is where I am going to be at in a year. Not ‘try’ to be at but ‘will’ be at. As weird as it sounds, talk to yourself and talk yourself up because at the end of the day, your biggest supporter is yourself.


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To the Girl who is Balancing College and Work

Nobody said it would be easy. College is not easy and some days at work are not easy. In sixth grade you have teachers trying to prepare you for middle school. Trying to help you get a feel for how the bell system works for changing classes, typing faster for notes (because “no” teacher will stop and repeat it), how to prioritize your time, and how important it is for you to join every single sport (because thats just what you do) oh.. and don’t forget every extracurricular activity too. When middle school rolls around you feel overwhelmed and scared. It kind of makes you nervous for high school but also excited at the same time excited because you only have four years to go. When you reach your senior year of high school everything turns to realization and decision making of what to do with the rest of your life. You have a resume to make, scholarships to fill out and pray you get, lists of University’s, State Colleges and Community colleges to pick, and numerous choices of majors and minors. I could go on and on. You never have a break in that final year of high school to sit down and breathe, just to take it all in. Some may know right away what they want to do, and some don’t decide until they make it to college and get a feel for things. There is no wrong or right way to do all of this and that is what most seniors don’t understand. You have pressure on your shoulders to pick the best college and the most successful major.

“Some people get an education without going to college. The rest get it after they get out.”

Mark Twain

When you finally graduate high school and get to college, life comes at you like a rocket. You realize how much money it costs to be at the place your studying, and to just even be out in the world on your own. Some are fortunate enough to not have to worry about finances for college, but the majority debate their education on if they have enough finances to make it through even a semester. This is where scholarships, financial aid and student loans come in to play, but that still might and most likely not be enough. Therefore, you are obligated to go out and get a job to help support your education, living expenses and the occasional caramel frappé. This is where life gets hard, stressful, and overwhelming. Trying to balance homework, your job, and social life seems impossible, but it is doable. To the girl who found the corky routine of how to balance all of this, you rock. There is no sort of guide you can read or a person that could tell you how to balance college and work. You have to experience it and have many trial and errors, probably more then you want. You may have cried several nights in a row thinking about dropping out or quitting your job, but you didn’t. You found a way to make it all work. You prioritized your wants and needs, and created some idea of a routine to follow to make it through. You did that. You did that all on your own, and that is something many can’t do. You rock, girl.

To the Girl who Finally is Happy

Pictured: Sierra Bruce (20), Tyler Daniels (24)

You did it, girl.

You are finally happy. You feel like you can breathe and smile at the same time again. After all those longs nights of sitting alone in your room, letting your mind run wild, has come to an end. You have a clear clean slate of happiness that has never felt so right. You might not even know where to begin now because it has been so long since you felt this. I am so proud of you. As a girl we all know what it is like to get lost in yourself so easily and become depressed, suicidal, and just alone. Overcoming that and finding your happiness again gives you butterflies, like in middle school when your crush finally texts you back. You deserve nothing but this feeling. It may have taken you years, months, weeks, days or just even hours to find it but it doesn’t matter, what matters is that you are happy. Your happiness comes first and always should… But you also know that it is hard to make sure yourself comes first. You get caught up in life and pleasing others or trying to make everyone around you feel happy, that you suddenly forgot about yourself.

“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe.”

Marcus Aurelius

It is hard to overcome that routine in life of pleasing others, but you did it. You broke that horrible habit and made yourself come first, and it rewarded you with being happy. Remember how you did that and how amazing it felt when the weight of all that worrying, and stress lifted off your shoulders. You did it, girl.